Tag Archives: partner

Stop being controlling. Try a behaviour detox!

Posted on July 19, 2014 by Nicole

In my practice I’ve noticed that as we age, we can get stuck in our ways. The average age of marriage is now about 30 for both men and women in Canada. When those of us in our thirties enter … Continue reading →

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5 habits happy couples have

Posted on July 12, 2014 by Nicole

As a couples therapist, I have noticed a few habits common to many happy couples. Whether you’re in the dating scene or committed, these habits can help you to build and maintain a happy, healthy relationship. 1. Asking about your … Continue reading →

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How to handle the stress of moving in

Posted on July 5, 2014 by Nicole

When two people move in together, there’s often conflict at first. Some of my clients tell me they experience conflict over things like daily habits and routines when they move in with their partner. Moving in with your partner is … Continue reading →

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Learning to stop a fight

Posted on May 24, 2014 by Nicole

Have you ever argued with your partner and couldn’t remember why you were fighting, although you were very upset in the moment? I have clients who will come into therapy and say they’ve had an argument with their partner, but when … Continue reading →

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What about MEN who have postpartum depression?

Posted on May 3, 2014 by Nicole

Depression in men can be difficult to recognize, both for the man and anyone close to him. With Mental Health Week coming up, I’d like to discuss depression in men and new dads, which seems to be forgotten. As a … Continue reading →

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Are couples who sleep apart really better off?

Posted on March 29, 2014 by Nicole

About 30 to 40 % of couples sleep apart, according to recent surveys led by Ryerson University. The surveys suggest that there could be some benefits to sleeping apart, especially among couples who sleep apart because of disturbances like snoring … Continue reading →

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Women: Take responsibility for your choices!

Posted on March 22, 2014 by Nicole

It’s time to stop putting the onus on the man to change. Let me preface this by stating that I don’t mean to be gender biased, but I do find that some women bring their men to therapy as a means … Continue reading →

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Are you sitting on the fence? Why you shouldn’t play the waiting game

Posted on March 8, 2014 by Nicole

When you’re sitting on the fence in a relationship, it’s the most painful place to be. It’s a place of waiting for something to happen, or for some motivation to make a choice between staying and leaving. You feel lonely, … Continue reading →

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Embrace Your Role

Posted on February 22, 2014 by Nicole

Love is three things: acceptance, understanding and tolerance of who your partner is. During my couple’s counselling sessions, often one partner complains about the other. Most often, the partner who complains tries to turn the other into a reflection of … Continue reading →

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Do You Feel Like A Broken Record?

Posted on February 8, 2014 by Nicole

Often in our relationships, we remind our partners to not be late, to call us, to spend time with us, etc. It’s like a broken record. We’re constantly nagging them and they are perpetually not learning. You may feel frustrated … Continue reading →

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