Accepting yourself fully – at your best, at your worst and everywhere in between – can lead you towards better self-love. That said, it’s not easy to let go of self-judgment and embrace all of the parts of us that we don’t like.
We all have parts of us that aren’t so easy to accept. You might see those parts of you as your dark side, your shadow self or the pieces of you that you want to hide from the world. But in every one of your so-called weaknesses, there is a strength.
Your shadow self, whether you perceive it as your weakness, downfall or something you need to work on, can give you something in your life.
Take a few minutes to think about what your shadow self gives you. What are the strengths in your perceived weaknesses? How do the parts of you that you want to hide benefit you? If your immediate thought is that there is nothing useful to be gleaned from your shadow self, know that there always is. So try to find the good in it. Befriend these parts of yourself.
Even the anxious part of you (which you may spend most of your day trying to get rid of), is one example that can actually benefit you in some ways. For instance, your anxiety is what drives you to be successful at work. It can motivate you to get up early and start the tasks of your day before everyone else. There are unpleasant parts of having anxiety, but there are also aspects of it that drive and motivate you. So you wouldn’t want to get rid of it completely anyway.
Once you’ve found the strength(s) in the parts of you that you don’t like, the next step is acceptance. It’s easier to embrace all of you and accept yourself fully when you can find the good in the things you judge yourself for. So take time to embrace of all who you are.