7 benefits of marriage counselling



Marriage counselling can be a very powerful way to forgive, heal and reconnect with your partner. Drawn from my experience as a couples therapist, here are 7 benefits of marriage counselling:

1. You get unstuck.

Marriage counselling invites you to step outside of your life for one hour and focus on your relationship. Your therapist acts a mediator, providing you and your partner with the guidance you need to listen to each other uninterruptedly.

Counselling creates an environment encouraging open, two-way communication. When we’re stuck in old patterns we often forget that whatever we’re doing isn’t working.

We create stagnant energy in our relationships when we’re unaware of these patterns, and we end up feeling disconnected. Marriage counselling helps you overcome the lack of intimate communication so you can better understand each other and create meaningful change.

2. You realize your fears.

You get past the surface level issues and repetitive arguments. These repetitive arguments are symptoms of underlying issues often related to fear.

Surface level issues typically fall into certain topics in your life, such as finances, sex and parenting. When you get past the symptomatic issues, you can finally deal with the underlying unmet needs and emotional injuries.

Your underlying fears and perceptions manifest in very particular (and often recurring) ways, and a therapist can help you see how this happens for you in your marriage. If you can get to what lies beneath the negative patterns in your relationship, your arguments will eventually dissipate.

3. You commit to growth.

When you go to marriage counselling, you’re investing in something that will grow. Just as neglecting your health and finances could lead to illness and debt, neglecting your relationship could lead to divorce or an unhappy marriage at best.

When you invest in counselling, what you’re really investing in is the will to change. Accepting help from someone else in a intimate area of your life is a wonderful thing. Your willingness to change and ask for help and guidance is a big step in a better direction.

4. You deepen intimacy and connection.

Marriage counselling helps you deepen intimacy and connection. Your ability to have meaningful conversations with your partner is typically interrupted by work, kids, and even feeling tired after a long day. Marriage counselling creates space for deeper emotional intimacy in your relationship. This new awareness infiltrates your sex life, connectedness, and your overall happiness.

5. You get a personal trainer, but for your relationship.

You have a health professional to point out your blind spots. Your therapist is focused directly on your relationship. They are able to identify fears and patterns you’re not aware of so that you can realize your part in the recurring issues.

6. You’re held accountable.

You’re required to put change into practice. Therapists will often give you homework and experiments to take into your life. Putting what you’ve learned into practice is key to parting ways with old perceptions and patterns to create lasting change.

7. You learn to forgive and let go.



Marriage counselling always leads you somewhere different and somewhere better. You get the benefit of forgiveness and release. You come out of therapy as someone who has learned a new language. You’ve learned how to communicate and connect in a new way.



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14 Responses to 7 benefits of marriage counselling

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  2. I agree that marriage counseling really helps, as I’ve seen it fix a lot of big issues my parents had dealt with. Problems are bound to come up with marriage, so I’ve been considering going to marriage counseling with my husband to get ahead of the game. I really liked your paragraph on realizing your fears, which I think could really benefit me in this relationship. Thanks for this help!

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  6. debbie walker says:

    The best gift you can give to a newly engaged couple-send them to marriage counselling. Some Churches make this mandatory. All of the above mentioned can help to learn what your partner is expecting, your expectations, how to handle important issues, if you are compatible or if the marriage is not ideal.

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  8. Excellent Guide… It will definitely help the couple who are having issues in their relationship.

  9. It’s interesting to hear that repetitive arguments are often indicators of another issue, particularly fear, which can be addressed during counseling. My wife and I have been having some trouble for the past year or so since things have been unstable with my employment. Maybe we’d benefit from sitting down with a counselor together and seeing if we can figure out what’s actually going on so we can fix it.

  10. Ron Booker says:

    I liked that you mention how couples counseling can help you develop intimacy and a better connection in your marriage. My sister and her fiance have been having some complications lately, and we want to helo them out. We will recommend them couples counseling to strengthen their relationship, that way they can create a deeper emotional intimacy.

  11. Ellie Davis says:

    I liked that you mentioned investing in marriage counseling will help you to commit to change in your marriage. My brother has been having problems with his wife, and we are looking for advice to help him. I will let him know about the benefits of marriage counseling to help him with that problem.

  12. Thank you for this article on the benefits of marriage therapy and I find it interesting that therapy is actually a phase where couples commit to growth. My wife and I have not had a meaningful conversation for a while now as we are both bogged down by work. I appreciate that you shared marriage therapy can help ignite the intimacy between us and I think I will suggest it to her.

  13. It’s interesting that you point out that marriage counseling can help you improve your communication with your spouse. My wife and I have been arguing a lot for the past few months, so I’m considering going to a couple’s therapist with her. I’m going to look for a reputable couple’s therapist in our area that we can use.

  14. My husband and I want to improve our relationship and connection in a healthy way. I love how you said that marriage counseling provides a space for deeper emotional connection in your relationship. We’ll have to find a respectable couples counseling service that we can use to improve our marriage.

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