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3 things to do the week of your wedding

Most people envision the week of their wedding as a really happy time, but feeling stressed out about the big day can overtake some of the excitement. To let go of stress and enjoy the experience, take the days before … Continue reading

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Accept reality

Take a moment to think about whether you accept your partner as they are right now, including the parts of them that you don’t like. Exploring your feelings towards your partner – both your love for them and any uncertainty … Continue reading

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5 things couples should discuss before getting married

As a therapist, I’ve noticed that many couples who go through divorce realize when it’s too late that they didn’t discuss things they ended up fighting over. All marriages are a legal contract, a lot like a business partnership. If … Continue reading

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What you need to talk about before having a baby

Think about how you were raised by your parents (or other caregivers.) What choices did your parents make in raising you that shaped your beliefs about how to raise a child? If you and your partner want to have a … Continue reading

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It’s not about the towels

In a recent radio interview, I spoke with a couple about a very common topic couples argue about: household chores. This couple had been in a fight over whether their towels needed to be cleaned. Although arguments like this might … Continue reading

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Are you staying married for the wrong reasons?

One of the things I notice with people who come into therapy is that many people often stay in an unhappy marriage out of fear of judgment. They fear the label of divorce, and what the people in their lives … Continue reading

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Why you shouldn’t believe in happily ever after

Many of us are conditioned to believe that our lives will fall perfectly into place when we get married to the person we love. This conditioning begins in childhood, and we come to develop the expectation that being married and … Continue reading

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How to be more empathetic

Successful couples are empathic towards each other. Empathy is the ability to understand another person’s emotions from their perspective – what people often call “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” It’s different than sympathy, because empathy is more about understanding … Continue reading

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The secret relationship killer

People who feel bitter and emotionally trapped in their relationship often share one common trait: they choose not to communicate with their partner. Self-expression can make us feel vulnerable and uncomfortable, which is why we can feel anxious about sharing … Continue reading

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3 simple ways for your relationship to stay happy after kids

To have a great relationship after kids, there are three key things you need to know. Based on my experience as a couples therapist, these three tips will support intimacy, connectedness and fondness for one another as you adjust to … Continue reading

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