While I was pregnant with twins I noticed that I had started clenching my jaw a lot and especially at night. I would go throughout my day and feel happy leading my busy life but when I went to bed my stress seemed to come out and that’s when I would catch myself clenching and grinding my teeth.
The truth is that I knew what I needed to do in order to not clench my jaw at night. Drinking hot tea, taking magnesium before bed, meditating and doing yoga daily and even taking a warm bath are all ways that could help me relax and unwind. This got me thinking and I realized that really everyone knows what helps them unwind and relax, but often are not applying all of these things in their lives.
Take a moment now to list a few things that you love to do, that make you happy. Why aren’t you doing more of these? What stops you? Do you tell yourself that you are too busy? Too tired? When it comes to making larger change in our lives, such as leaving that dead-end job to start a business, or ending that toxic relationship, it is usually fear that stops us. What would you do if you weren’t afraid? How would your life be different if you trusted that everything would work out for you? Would your choices be different?
Starting with small change first can help you build confidence. Starting in the morning, do that thing that you love. Take time to go for a walk, play your favourite music. Slow down enough to take some deep breaths before the whirlwind of the day starts.
Fuel your soul first. Make your happiness a priority first. It’s not selfish but self-care to take time for you. You will actually be a better parent, employee and friend if you start putting your happiness at the top of your list.