As we end another year, it’s important to reflect on the lessons life brought you in 2014. The end of the year is the perfect time to think about what you want your life to look like in 2015, and how you can bring your vision to life.
Before you can create what you want for the year ahead, it’s important to review everything that happened leading up to this moment.
Here are three steps to help you reflect:
Review your life in 2014
What were your ups and downs this year? What went your way, and what didn’t go your way? What were the lessons?
If you keep a journal, go back and read it. You can even look at your photos on social media to help you reflect on your life this past year. If you don’t have a journal, take a moment to sit quietly and think about your most vivid memories from 2014. Think about the times when you were resilient and bounced back after adversity. Think about what went well and what didn’t. As you review your life this year, notice the patterns that come up for you.
Find your patterns
If there are patterns you want to break, you need to have awareness of what your patterns are. Reviewing what went well and what didn’t go well is key for you to become aware.
After you’re aware and you’ve reviewed the year, take 100 percent responsibility for everything. Take responsibility for the times when life changed you and when you changed life. When we take responsibility for our past, it can be empowering to make changes in our future.
We can only change when we are fully aware of our choices and what we have created. There is power in owning up to everything that happened this year. This can be difficult at first, especially if you strongly feel that certain things were out of your control. But the most important thing is to be aware of your choices in each and every circumstance that shaped your life in 2014. This will help you move forward into a fresh new year with eyes wide open.
Choose what you want to leave behind
Think of everything you want to let go of – all the patterns, fears and stresses – and write them down. Create a list that you can go back to at any time in the year ahead. In my practice as a psychotherapist, I’ve noticed some patterns that are quite common. Here’s a sample of what you may want to let go of:
– Perfectionism and self-criticism
– Fear of what other people think
– Not trusting that everything will work out
– Arguments with a spouse or partner
– Frustration towards a boss or other specific person
– Difficulty saying no
Whatever you want to let go of, hold the intention that you are going to leave these things behind and only take with you the lessons learned. In writing a list of what you choose to leave behind, you are symbolically separating yourself from these things.
The law of attraction explains that what we focus on tends to expand. Our thoughts influence our actions, which shape our experiences and our life. When you hold yourself completely responsible for your life, you can let go of blame and walk into a new year empowered with the awareness that things can be different, and you can be different.