Over the holiday weekend, many people tend to experience an increase in feelings of sadness, stress, anxiety and hopelessness. This often occurs as there can be strain and pressure in the family. Also, if you are spending this weekend alone, the isolation can lend to negative feelings. This post is about a serious topic: Depression. It is also about how depression can lead to suicide. Here are some tips to not only combat depression, but to get help when contemplating suicide.
When you fall into a dark hole, you feel trapped, scared, and isolated. Hopelessness and depression are heavy emotions, and you can almost feel the weight of them at all times. I encourage you to look up from this dark place, and see the light, feel the hope. As a psychotherapist, I have seen people who are completely hopeless and depressed transform into the people they always wanted to be. There is hope.
Our moods are never constant. Know that despite how hopeless or negative you feel, your mood can change. It is inevitable. There are tools to help you boost your mood right now. I want to share some tips with you, from my book, 52 Ways to Beat Depression Naturally. Here are some links to tips directly from my book:
Challenge Your Beliefs
Your Food Affects Your Mood
Being Grateful Can Change Your Life
Sleep is So Important for Your Mental Health
If you are contemplating suicide, call your local distress centre or proceed to the nearest emergency room. This article is not a substitute for professional assistance, and it is highly recommended that you seek counselling for your depression.
When facing depression, suicidal thoughts can arise. Sometimes we think, “Life would be better for everyone if I wasn’t here.” This is mild suicidal thinking, if you don’t have any intention on acting on these thoughts. However, if you think or talk about death and/or suicide, or fantasize about your death, this is serious and severe suicidal thinking.
The truth is that if you did end your life, your family and friends will be impacted terribly. Life will never be easier without you. Someone values you and loves you, even if you don’t feel good about yourself right now.
So what can you do to experience relief from suicidal thinking?
- Connect with someone. The worst thing to do is to isolate yourself. This allows your guilt, worthlessness and hopelessness to grow. Share your sadness with your friends, family, or a counsellor. Remember, if you experience any intention to act on your suicidal thoughts, proceed to the nearest emergency room, call a friend or family member, or contact a local distress centre line.
- Think about a time in your routine that makes you feel better. Do you forget your hopelessness when you are walking your dog? Then spend more time doing that! Or does talking to a friend heal your pain, even if it’s temporary? Try to connect with that friend more often. Do you feel better when walking to the bus? Maybe exercise is helping
It can get better. I have seen it happen. Therapy can change your life, by targeting your hopeless, negative, and self-harming thoughts. It works by healing past traumas, building your self-worth, and really changing the way you think about yourself. Seek help and connect with local resources, such as a support group, distress centre, or counsellor.